How to Divorce Proof your Marriage
7 Simple Steps
Over 50% of Marriages end up in divorce. That kind of statistic makes many married couples feel a sense of
insecurity and dread that one day their happily ever after will also end in divorce. Society has taken the sacred
vows that say “till death do us part” and turned them into “till you make me unhappy”. The great news is that
there are happy marriages out there that still last a lifetime and secret is to take what they have learned and
apply them to your own marriage so that the word divorce will never be heard of in your home.
1.Talk, talk, talk. Communication is a key in any good relationship especially marriage. You must agree in
the beginning of your relationship that no matter how difficult circumstances may get or situations you may have to
go through as a couple, divorce is not an option. That sets the stage that you must work through things and not
keep them bottled up because forever is a long time. Talk about how different situations or things about your
spouse make you feel, don’t just assume that they know. Bring into the conversation things that you love and enjoy
about your spouse and also express things in a constructive manner that may need some work or may need to change.
2. Never take each other for granted- That just about explains the entire step. Many times couple flower
each other with love, gifts, acts of service, and praise during the courtship and throw it to the wind when they
finally get married. Don’t do that! Continue to show love and appreciation for one another especially once you have
gotten married, it will make your spouse love tank full and they’ll never need to find anyone else to fill it.
3. Respect is a huge word that simply means treat your spouse the way that you would want to be treated.
Respect begets respect .Show each other respect for the different roles that each of you carry in your marriage as
husband and wife. Don’t belittle each other roles and duties in the relationship but try to understand them and
appreciate what each one does. Also respect one another and be willing to help one another to grow in different
areas of life. You can show respect to one another in multiple ways. Get your spouse’s opinion about thoughts and
decisions that you want to take. Be considerate of them by remembering special dates and making an effort to always
be on time for dates and appointments. Recognize your spouse’s strengths and limitations and offers encouragement
instead of belittling one another? Respect in marriage is the key to fulfilling relationships and well-bred,
considerate children. Without respect a marriage can crumble.
4. Keep a unified front. This is important. You should be your spouse’s greatest supporter and encourager.
Don’t go putting one another down in front of family, friends, or co-workers. If someone starts talking bad about
your spouse you should always defend them and stop the conversation. Never argue about issues or ideas in front of
others, keep a unified front and talk about your difference of opinions in your home and come to conclusions there.
Also for those of you that have children always keep a unified front with them. Talk about difference of opinions
privately and come to a conclusion together and raise your kids in agreement. It will purge your life of immense
stress when you have each other for support in raising healthy and obedient children.
5. Keep yourself up. Why do you put on your make-up, go to the gym, do your hair, and dress well while you
are dating and let yourself go once you get married. This is wrong and can open the door for some spouses to stray.
It shows that you don’t care about pleasing your spouse or taking care of yourself for them is not important to
you. You should take care of your appearance for the most important person in your life so that they will be proud
to have you by their side and it show a sense of respect for one another that you value your spouse and want to
look your best for them. They will never have to look elsewhere because their spouse is the most beautiful person
in the world.
6. Pick your battles. This one is HUGE! It is so hard to be married to a spouse who picks a fight about
every little thing and never lets anything go. You have to learn to pick your battles and think about things in the
view of, is this really that important in the big picture or can I let this go. When you nag at your spouse over
every little thing you make it very hard for them to enjoy coming home after a long day at work if they know that
at home you are waiting to jump on them about this or that. Make your home a place of peace that your spouse will
love to come home to because they know that there is appreciation and encouragement at home. Most things are just
not worth fighting over, learn to compromise and let things go.
7. Intimacy in marriage is crucial. There are three levels of intimacy and you could write a book on this
subject but we will just skim over them here. Spiritual intimacy in a relationship is the glue that keeps the
marriage fulfilled and connected in a way that nothing else can. When God connects a husband and wife then nothing
can separate them. Emotional Intimacy is what is poured into the relationship through intimate conversation and
quality time spent together finding out who your spouse really is. Help them to unload their fears and achieve
their desires and dreams by having quality time together. Sexual Intimacy is the time spent together holding one
another, kissing and making love. This is a huge step that many couples lay by the wayside when they get busy,
especially once they have kids, but you can’t. You must make this a priority in your life because you were created
to enjoy sex with your spouse and if you don’t fulfill that place in their life it will leave them empty and
unfulfilled. If it stretches over a long period time it will leave your spouse frustrated and dry, opening the door
to temptations. Sex is a wonderful activity that studies have shown to prolong your life and beneficial to your
health, plus its fun and pleasurable if your main goal is to please your spouse and they reciprocate back. Most
importantly it will close all doors for outside temptations because your spouse will be fully fulfilled and satisfied by you.
Take the word divorce out of your marriage completely and if hard times arise, and believe me they will, no
problem you can get through it together. It if you ever need extra help getting through those hard times find
friends who have a strong marriage, or a marriage counselor and get help together. The reward of having a lifelong
marriage is imeasuarable. You can have a strong, loving and secure marriage that will last a lifetime if you apply
these steps to your life. Have a wonderful lifelong marriage.
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