How to Stay Happily Married For Life

 

The average cost for a wedding these days is between $15,000 to $25,000 and the average price for a divorce can be just as much, if not even more. With the divorce rate being over 50% many couples ask, “Why get married at all?” More and more couples these days are choosing not to get married to save themselves from these financial hardships. Yet the question is can this new from of “living together” be healthy for couples and their children?

The answer is No!

When you choose to get married to someone you are making a commitment and covenant before God and man that you are going to love and cherish your husband or wife till death do you part. When you just choose to live together there is no commitment and it is very easy for one or the other to just walk away without any ties. It is also setting an unhealthy example for your children where they don’t have a safety net or a feeling of security with their parents who could so easily split at a moment’s notice. You are also blocking the full extent of all the blessing and purpose that God has for your life by living outside of His Word. Is it possible you ask to stay married in this day, “till death do us part?” The great news is, it is!
What is the secret to staying married and happy?

The first and most important point is to prioritize your marriage.

What number is your marriage on the list of priorities in your life? It should be number 2, right behind your spiritual life. Think about your day, what do you spend most of your day doing and thinking about? Television and culture show you a very destructive and negative view of marriage. Hollywood portrays marriage as a terrible and depressing situation that you are stuck with and will leave you unhappy and unsatisfied until you find something or someone better. Try to stay away from television as much as you can. Marriage is what you make of it.

What can you do to build and strengthen your marriage? Here are some simple steps that have been proven to work in strengthening and building the marriages of countless couples.

1. Make it a point and a goal to go to a marriage seminar or conference at least once a year. There is nothing like it. You will always find out a new way or technique to communicate better, to reevaluate your goals together, and just spend time together working on the most important relationship you have. Yes, it may bring up issues or feeling that you were trying to suppress but the growth and the intimacy that will come about due to you two working through it is unmatchable and well worth it. Don’t make excuses and say that, we don’t have money or time; this is something that is definitely worth every penny and every second of time. It will save you many sleepless nights of wondering how a divorce could have happened to you and save you thousands of dollars in legal fees.

2. Try to read a least 1 book every 1-2 months on how to build and strengthen and add excitement in your marriage. A great one to start with is called, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It will definitely bring more understanding into your relationship and bring it to a new level of how to show love to your spouse.

 

3. Do not let the sun go down on your arguments and disagreements. Yes, this may open the door to some late nights at times discussing and fighting through issues. When you let disagreements to filter into the next day it causes unhealthy thoughts to enter you mind and heart. Start each day fresh because life constantly throws problems your way and the last thing you need to do is to pile one on top of another.

 

4. Make sure to incorporate date nights and times away to get refreshed and reenergized together. It is crucial not to let the business of life and work wear you out to the point of exhaustion and open the door to constant fighting. If you constantly find yourself running short of time, schedule your dates a month ahead and make it a priority not something that is easily put off or canceled. If you put it on the calendar it will give you something fun and exciting to look forward to.

5. Make sure to make the physical and sexual aspects of your relationship a priority. Never withhold sex as a form of punishment from your spouse. If you use sex as punishment and reward you are demeaning your spouse and opening the door to thoughts of infidelity and possible actions towards it.  Don’t starve each other in this department and open the door to problems. If your spouse is constantly going to work sexually unsatisfied and starved there will eventually be a trap that he/she may fall for.

 

6. Surround yourselves with other married couples and start a home group where you come together and encourage each other and laugh together with couples who can be there for you in the good and help you in the difficulties. Having other couples around you that will help build you relationship by discussing issues and sharing problems and solutions that other couples have found. It is always encouraging to have someone you can call to and be able to bounce ideas off.

7. Once a month reevaluate your relationship together and see where you are at. Communicate openly and honestly to each other about the problems you have and don’t be so quick to defend yourself and get upset but try to really understand where your spouse is coming from and what you can do to change it. Learn not to hold grudges and be quick to forgive because unforgiveness will only eat away at your relationship. When you forgive, forget it and never bring it up in a future argument. Most importantly, NEVER argue in front of your kids, save their eyes and ears to keep them feeling insecure, powerless, or afraid that their parents will split. It is not healthy for their wellbeing or confidence.

 

Staying married for life is no easy feat. It takes a lot of hard work dedication and a true commitment from both sides. But the reward of a loving, fun, and exciting life long relationship has no bounds. Things will iron out as you continue to work through the different stages of your life and your love will continue to grow deeper and stronger and your physical relationship will escalate through the roof as you learn more and more ways of pleasing each other. The illusion of the grass being greener on the other side is just that, an illusion. Get to work and make the grass even greener on your side. Have an amazing, exciting, loving marriage for Life!

 

 

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